As it stands there is currently no sex ed in the Malaysian education system at any level, only the dubiously named ‘Moral Studies’, which is a different thing entirely.
There was a debate on the radio this morning as the government are currently discussing implementing sex ed in schools, so the viewers phoned in with their thoughts.
Obviously it’s a good idea and it’s long overdue, there is a lot of sex crime in Malaysia, although that is a different subject entirely, and one I shall address another day.
Kids need to be educated, I think in some part there should be two levels of sex ed, one for young kids, so they know what is right and wrong, so they know when their ‘Uncle’ touches them like that it’s not right.
Then later on at early teens, the normal birds and the bees, contraception, safe sex, responsibility and the biology of it.
As someone who called into the radio station mentioned, the general Malaysia teachers are not equipped for such a thing, and it shouldn’t be considered part of the curriculum as it’s not an academic subject. As in UK it’s provided by outside experts a couple of times per semester, in UK we have something called the Family Planning Association[/url] with trained counsellors (it’s the place you go to get free condoms, sexual health checks, enquire about contraception, the morning after pill and so on).
The ‘lessons’ we had were quite graphic with slideshows of sexually transmitted diseases including such horrors as genital warts and fungal infections. Plenty enough to make you go ‘ewww’
The talks were given by experts, you can split it into areas and the classes should be open to debate, not the typical student-teacher heirarchy, kids needs to ask questions and really understand this stuff, not go along believing old wives tales and whispers from the playground.
Subjects that can be covered would be sex itself and the biology, sexually transmitted diseases, contraception, moral and emotional issues, law (age of consent, statutory rape etc.) and so on.
I think Malaysia needs to go ahead with this, but it needs to approach it properly, and make sure it’s implemented correctly, it doesn’t need to be another typical ‘all-talk’ Malaysian effort, which amounts to nothing in the end. This is an important subject.
Partially I feel there is also a problem with parenting, the asian culture being less open to discussing things like sex, did you parents talk to you about the birds and the bees? Or did you learn from friends and on your own? (Pun intended).
It’s a subject that needs to be discussed, that should not be taboo and that kids growing up and experienced hormones need to understand and be comfortable with so they can make the correct, informed choices.
We also had a drugs talk towards the end of highschool, which I think is also a good thing. The police came along with all the different drugs and explained what they were, how much they cost, were they came from, what the effects and dangers were and the legal ramifications for posession, supply or use.
Anyway just my 2 cents as usual 🙂 Feel free to add your own opinion.
Good sex is good. Bad sex is Bad. No sex is bad. No sex is better than bad sex. Good sex is always better than no sex, and even better than Bad Sex. Any sex is sometimes better than no sex, provided that it’s good sex, otherwise it’s bad sex which makes it bad. Some sex is also sometimes better than no sex, provided that it’s good sex, otherwise it’s bad sex which makes it bad. Any sex may or may not be better than same sex. But for as long as its good sex, ALL sex is good.
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I get all my sex eds from the internet.
Thank you, I’ll be here all week.
Nothing is better than SEX
Mastrubation is better than NOTHING
Mastrubation > Nothing > Sex
So Mastrubation > Sex 0_o
I think you confused the words ‘education’ and ‘satisfaction’..
Let’s correct your sentence:
“I get all my sexual satisfaction from the internet.”
Pwned.
i wrote an article once on STD.
“Online forums and chat rooms have given me an opportunity to indulge in various discussions with my peers. Most of the time, the topic of safe sex inevitably comes up. From all these exchanges, I notice one disturbing pattern. Most people my age subscribe to the idea of safe sake, which is commendable, but they do so namely for the fear of unplanned pregnancies. They talk about how unplanned pregnancies would affect them, how it ruins one’s future, how their parents would react and many other issues. Perhaps due to the anonymity on Internet, they would then sheepishly admit that they do not use condoms, since there are many other ways to prevent pregnancies.
Regrettably, the issues of sexual transmitted diseases (STD) were rarely raised. Using condoms is undeniably the most effective and only means of avoiding STD, after abstinence. However, teenagers and young adults are more pre-occupied with avoiding pregnancies then their physical well-being. To them, STD apparently sounds like a far-fetched story that only happens to ‘other people’. Hence, somehow or rather, they would resort to other means of ‘safe-sex’, such as pulling out before ejaculation or periodic sex (which obviously do not protect against STD).
Parents play a major role to counter this problem. Imagine the scenario of a father talking about birds and bees to his son. He drills the importance of wearing condoms into his child. He speaks about the inconvenience of an unplanned pregnancy. He talks about everything but STDs. Then fast forward to a scene where the son is surfing the Internet. Dozens of ways to prevent pregnancies come up at a click of the mouse. He decides not to wear condoms; there are more convenient and economical methods of family planning.
This phenomenon is what I believe happening in many families. Youths are conditioned to believe that the concept of safe sex only concerns unplanned pregnancies and hardly STD. Not that they are not aware of it, but rather the issue lacks weight in terms of importance. Even campaigns against STD that are being conducted emphasise too heavily on figures and statistics; people naturally feel less as risk when they belong to a low risk group. As I have mentioned earlier, they believe it only happens to ‘other people’. I sincerely hope everyone and especially fellow teenagers would change their mindset”
err too long..hor? 😛
Masterbation! A waste of F**king time. 😉
Only problem with the Family Planning Association who gave us the sex talks in Aussie, is they sometimes contradicted each other. I never saw a slide show either … maybe a good thing, I am very squemish.
True story from one of my Mentor’s Pastor Al – He told me a story about how some Christians were so against sex education at school, that they refused to go to the talks. One couple from his church phoned him one night, and he had to give them the birds and bees talk on their wedding night as they’d never received one. Not at school, not from their parents. His reaction, Christians should attend the sex talks at school, it saves him giving the talk later on that their prudish parents won’t give them!!!
Nice post ST. I hope Malaysia is listening.
Kimberly, it’s not long when you can get the message across =) I’m on the pre-planning phase of conducting a STD campaign at college either..just hope the campaign gets chosen since there’s much publicity generated and much info can be disseminated too..
we have the same problem in Singapore – sex education is minimal and it focuses on telling kids it’s bad and it’s wrong. i learnt about sex at primary 3 when my mum gave me a book called “Where did i come from?”. It was illustrated and full of pictures and that was basically my sex education. recently there has been loads of news on couples not knowing about contraception, teens having multiple casual sex partners and teens getting AIDS. I think much more needs to be done. Beyond sex education, girls and young women need to be taught how to be assertive and insist on a condom without any fear of pissing their men off, and to walk if he insists on not using it. this in the long term saves the trouble of STDs, unplanned pregnancies, abortions and AIDS.
Sex is bad and wrong. Look what happened to my parents … they had ME!!!!! Yes, ME! would you want someone else to be afflicted with such a thing! As for the young women needing to be taught sex education etc, send them to me. It will at least teach them how to slap a man across the face. I cause that as a natural reaction. 🙂
As someone working at the sharp end, I’m not convinced that sex education as practiced in the UK is producing anything like the intended effect. Every year, I dispense more and more prescriptions for contraceptives and STD antimicrobials for younger and younger kids. This is consistent with official statistics. For example, the UK actually has the highest rate of unplanned teen pregnancies of any European country.
I agree, the problem is in the most part, sex ed is not taken seriously, and most people still have the ‘it won’t happen to me’ syndrome.
UK has some serious parenting issues, kids have too many rights nowdays and are a law unto themselves.
Yeah that’s a very valid point too, women need to be taught how to assert themselves, and control the situation. They after all hold all the cards.
1. Cover your stump before you hump
2. Before you attack her, wrap your whacker
3. Don’t be silly, protect your willy
4. When in doubt, shroud your spout
5. Don’t be a loner, cover your boner
6. You can’t go wrong if you shield your dong
7. If you’re not going to sack it, go home and whack it
8. If you think she’s spunky, cover your monkey
9. If you slip between her thighs, be sure to condomize
10. It will be sweeter if you wrap your peter
11. She won’t get sick if you wrap your dick
12. If you go into heat, package your meat
13. While you’re undressing venus, dress up your penis
14. When you take off her pants and blouse, slip up your trouser mouse
15. Especially in December, gift wrap your member
16. Never, never deck her with an unwrapped pecker
17. Don’t be a fool, vulcanize your tool
18. The right selection will protect your erection
19. Wrap it in foil before checking her oil
20. A crank with armor will never harm her
21. No glove, no love!
You can’t blame me for those unwanted preggo’s yet. I’m not in the UK till at least August. 🙂
I suspect a lot of the Teenage preggo’s are actually caused by the media. For instance, I know in Aussie, they had a magazine called “Dolly” aimed at teenage girls, where a poll showed that 98% of the readers had supposedly had sex. A real world study showed that teenage girls of the “same age as Dolly’s target market” had no where near as much sex as reported in the magazine.
Alas, a lot of teenage girls seeing that Statistic in “Dolly” magazine might have come to the conclusion that they were in a minority (2%), which might have induced them to be more permiscous. Obviously, 98% of the respondants doesn’t necessarily represent 98% of the readers, or even 98% of teenage girls. It only represents what the people who responded said. [And believe me, I’ve met a lot of teenagers, & even young 20 y o people who make stupid statements regarding sex. Like one of my old flatmates claimed he’d had sex one and a half times. We asked for an explanation as to how you do it ‘half’ a time. He couldn’t tell us. Another time two people I knew couldn’t agree if they’d had sex or not!]
Then, there are the movies which have every second actor getting it on with other actors, as though sex is something you do with strangers you’ve just met almost every day. [Damn lucky actors!] 🙂
I guess it’s somethingwhich needs to be addressed by sex education experts everywhere.
I think that another interesting aspect would be the process of childbirth. Right now in the UK they are airing a documentary series about childbirth called ‘Desparate Midwives’. No relation with another apparently popular TV drame series ‘Desperate Housewives’ though 😛
MAN WHATS WRONG WITH MASTRUBATION ……..IT
S THE ONLY WAY TO RELIEVE SEXUAL PLEASURE....THE NATURE WANTS THE GUYS TO HAVE SEX OR COPULATE WITH GIRLS BUT WHEN YOU DONT HAVE A PARTNER, MASTRUBATION IS THE LAST RESORT …..TO RELIEVE A MAN FROM THE SEXUAL PLEASURE…..SO THERE NOTHING WRONG IN MASTRUBATING……